This is the final installment of my "How it all started" series. If you've read up to this point, thank you!
I graduated college, and left for a 2 1/2 week trip to Israel only to return with just over one month until my own wedding. It was an intense summer, but one that I will never forget. If you get married right out of college, know that your entire life is about to flip upside down and inside out. It's a wonderful experience, but brace yourself for the ride. It can get a bit bumpy.
Upon returning from Israel I discovered that I had contracted a bacterial infection. I was extremely sick for right under a month, giving me little time to prepare or organize anything for our wedding. I was overwhelmed, anxious, and yet everyone kept telling me was to "savor this time", and "enjoy the moments". When there were a hundred and one details to orchestrate and organize, my state of being was one far from enjoyment. I wanted someone to step in, but other than family I had few options. Any coordinator I contacted would already be booked, and the realization that I should have booked a coordinator months ago set in.
But with little option, I moved forward, and did what I could. Our wedding day was filled with delightful anticipation, joy and so much fun. We committed our lives to each other and then partied into the night with our dearest friends and family. But did everything go smoothly or as I wanted? Nope. Things that mattered a lot to me, were far from ideal in their execution, I felt like I was constantly being pulled on to make decisions and figure things out, and by then end I was exhausted.
My number one tip to brides, even ones with a coordinator, is to NEVER process or talk through anything negative about the day, until you've had a few days to relish in all the good. Once you've set your mind on the good, the negative things, won't seem as bad. In the car with your new husband on your way to your honeymoon isn't the time to start replaying all the things that went wrong. Give yourself time.
All that to say, my biggest regret is that I didn't have a coordinator to make sure things ran smoothly. A planner would have been a tremendous help, but financially I wish I would have at least made the investment into a coordinator. Having been a bride and a bridesmaid at my share of weddings, they ALWAYS go better with a coordinator.
Fast forward a few months, we're enjoying married bliss, I'm starting a teaching job for a classical school in Lancaster, and hoping that I found my niche. However, I was wrong. I know I'll always end up working with kids in some way, but teaching is a huge commitment. It's a commitment that I've learned a lot through and cherish the time I've had as a teacher, But I don't see myself teaching long-term.
Nathan-my husband- and I were talking about going to seminary after our second wedding anniversary, and we both felt very sure that it was the next step for us. After applying and starting the process of looking for places to live in Philly, jobs, and just searching our hearts, we both realized that it wasn't the right time. All the while realizing this, I had a few friends who were getting married, and asked if I could coordinate their weddings for them. I did, and loved every single moment. It was like every passion and gift I had, was able to be put to use as a coordinator.Thus I started reading, studying, and researching wedding coordinating, got involved in The Rising Tide Society(a group of creative entrepreneurs who value community over competition), and started studying marketing. It has been a whirlwind of meeting with other vendors, learning the field in all it's nuances, and gaining experience, but I'm here now, proud to be a small business owner and passionate about making sure that my clients are taken care of in such a way, that all they can remember from their wedding day is joy and delight.